What's your number?

The Controversial Conversation: Let’s Talk Body Count

Being intimate with another person is one of the most natural parts of being human. Whether it’s a night of casual sex with a stranger, a spontaneous encounter with a friend, or long-term lovemaking between partners, it all falls under the very normal umbrella of human connection.

And yet… the question lingers."So, how many people have you slept with?"

We’ve all felt that pressure at some point. The awkward pause. The inner calculation. The temptation to lower the number to seem more “acceptable.” Or maybe even inflate it to gain social clout. It’s strange, isn’t it? That this one number, our sexual history, somehow becomes a measure of whether you’re worthy of love, respect, or relationship potential.

Let’s be honest.

We’ve all met someone whose “number” could outpace their age… and guess what? Who. Actually. Cares?This isn’t some frequent flyer program where more points earn you upgrades. Sex isn’t a competition, and your value isn’t tied to your body count.

That said, we also need to talk about the flip side, those with a higher number often face ridiculous expectations. Branded as “players” or “sluts,” they’re seen as sexual performers who should always deliver. But sex isn’t a performance. It’s an exchange, a connection, an experience. Labelling people based on how much sex they’ve had doesn’t just shame, it pressurises.

Let’s also stop shaming those with fewer sexual partners. If you’ve only ever had sex with one person or none at all, that’s perfectly valid, too. There’s no prize for “catching up,” just as there’s no trophy for being in the so-called “gold lounge.”

Here’s the truth:Humans are sexual beings. We are literally wired for it.Whether you’ve had a handful of partners or a few dozen, it doesn’t define your worth, your sexual skill, or your capacity to love.

Let’s cut the judgment. Let’s stop asking invasive questions that serve no real purpose.

Let’s be less weird about sex. Less critical. Less obsessed with metrics.

Let’s just be… human.